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The Impact of Emotion on Judgment and Behavior – by Gary Smolker
Food for Thought: Teach In A Room Full of Good Vibes. People Think Better When They Are Happy.
Below are photographs I took at a coffee and dessert reception I attended Wednesday night, December 7, 2016 at the Intercontinental Hotel in Century City, California.
I attended that event with Christy Rusk, a twenty-six year old chef.
Christy explained to me the artful skill in cooking and baking and the creative power of the chef that was physically and gastronomically displayed in the desserts on the dessert table at the reception.
The photograph below is of Christy holding a macaroon, which Christy ate and which is in Christy’s hand.
Christy took a multitude of deserts from the desert table in the reception area, put them on a plate, and then took the plate of deserts she had chosen from the desert table into a room adjoining the desert table room, before the presentation began.
According to Christy the macaroon displayed in Christy’s fingers in the photograph below is a masterpiece.
Christy pushed down on the top crust of the macaroon.
The crust gave in, then rebounded back.
Christy advised me that is a remarkable crust.
Only a crust made by a highly skilled chef would do that, have that physical property.
Before finishing the macaroon, Christy took that macaroon apart.
Christy explained to me how difficult it was to achieve the bubbly surface of the inner platform positioned in the multiple levels of the macaroon.
Christy explained each component piece and layer of the macaroon to me.
She explained the feel and taste effects that created the overall experience of eating that macaroon.
The pastry chef was like a world-class architect in terms of the effect the structure and taste of this macaroon had on me.
In my opinion, that macaroon is a piece of fine art.
Serve Unforgettably Stylish Deserts and Good Coffee At Events
I will remember attending that reception as a night of eating delightful and stylish deserts.
Eating those deserts relieved stress.
Eating those deserts made me very happy, created a good mood.
Note: desert is stress spelled backward.
Eating those deserts made me ready to learn, made me ready to enjoy the lectures to be presented that evening at that event.
Below is a photograph of Christy holding the partially eaten macaroon described above.
Below is a photograph of a mini-lemon-meringue pie, after Christy had taken a bite of it.
Christy is holding that mini-lemon-meringue pie in her fingers.
I can testify from personal knowledge about the experience of eating that mini-lemon-meringue pie. It is as delicious as it looks.
There were an infinitude of candies and pastries and fruits for the guests to enjoy.
The coffee was wonderfully delicious coffee.
The coffee and deserts were in a separate room the guests entered from a hallway before advancing to an adjoining room.
The lectures at this event were presented in the adjoining room.
After looking at the photographs of what was on the serving tables in the reception area, don’t you agree that STYLE IS EVERYTHING?
The picture on the far right is of mini-cheese cakes with chocolate medallion top.
Event Planners, Take Notice: Interesting Speakers Will Attract Interesting Audiences
The speakers at this event emoted/radiated great style.
It was clear to everyone in the audience that these speakers are people who live a life of action; the speakers are people who are fully engaged in a life of action, doing very practical relevant and interesting academic research work.
Their enthusiasm was contagious.
Everyone in the room was infected.
Life Is A Fashion Show for Stylish People
Stylish people are interesting.
Stylish people connect to themselves and to others.
Having style is a sign of having an organized mind.
Having style is a sign of being a creative brainy person.
Life is a fashion show, where the best style wins.
It was impossible to look at the stylish deserts on the desert table and not take one.
That is the way the world works.
Style
Style is important.
Style is everything.
Shoes are the beginning touch of complete style.
You should have seen the shoes the women in the audience were wearing.
The women in this audience were women who express themselves – their identity to themselves and their identity to others – by wearing very elegant put-together ensembles of outerwear.
The clothing worn by the women in the audience made it very clear that this was a brainy audience.
Speakers
The two speakers at this event are full-time university professors at Ben-Gurion University in the Negev.
They are presently living in America, while working as visiting scholars at prestigious American Universities.
One of the speakers was Dr. Hila Riemer.
Hilda is a Visiting Scholar at Stanford University in addition to being a Professor at Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Israel.
Hilda spoke about “The Effects of Emotions on People’s Judgments and Behavior.”
It is obvious to me that the results of Hilda’s academic research and the opinions that Hilda holds on the effect of emotions on judgments and behavior can be used, ought to be used, and is probably being are by advertising firms.
The other speaker at this event was Hilda’s husband Dr. Raziel Reamer.
Hilda’s husband, Dr. Raziel Riemer is a Visiting Scholar at the University of California Berkeley campus, and also a Professor at Ben-Gurion University of the Negev.
Raziel spoke about social robotics, in particular “How Understanding Human Motion Can Improve People’s Lives.”
Raziel told us: “Eventually robots that will be social companions to elderly people, much like dogs are now companions to people.
In my imagination, the results of Raziel’s academic research combined with Raziel’s opinions on body motion and bio-mechanics when combined with Hilda’s opinions and research results on the effect of emotions on people’s judgments and behavior should be coveted by engineers and social scientists who design robots.
The purpose of the reception was to introduce the audience to these two academics who are visiting scholars temporarily working at Stanford University and the University of California Berkeley.
RANGE OF TOPICS DISCUSSED Both speakers spoke about our emotions, motions, and what is in between.
MY TAKE AWAY:
- The intellectual level of their presentations was high. They knew they were speaking to people who have long attention spans, to people who do not have to be looking at their smart phones all the time.
- The point made by both lecturers is that there is an inter-relationship between people’s minds, what people wear, their emotions, their posture and their motions; there is also an emotional and physical relationship between how express themselves with their posture related to their body motions and to the clothing a person is wearing.
- Every aspect of a person’s outward appearance is related to their emotional state. A person’s emotion state is related in the way they move their body.
- What the people in the audience were wearing reaffirmed to me that style makes the world go round, that style is everything.
- What the people in the audience wore was extremely understated.
- If you want to make an impression, Hilda emphasized being understated is very important.
- If you want to persuade people, if you want to get results, it is necessary to be impactful.
- In that regard, Hila insisted that advertisements with low arousal are remembered longer than advertising with high arousal.
- To be impactful, pictures and illustrations used in advertisements must be relevant to the product or service being advertised.
- In other words: What you communicate must be internally and externally “relevant.” –
- What women in the audience at this educational event wore at this event was testimony to that principle.
- I still remember the shoes women were wearing at this event.
- The handbags and jewelry I saw at this reception and lecture program were also very memorable.
- In response to my questioning (from the audience to Raziel about the bi0-mechanics-ergonomics of high priced Stuart Weitzman shoes and high priced Jimmy Choo shoes and high priced Christian Louboutin shoes), Raziel insisted that because of bio-mechanics high heel shoes should never be worn.
- Being the charmer that he is, Raziel mentioned that it took Raziel 20 years to convince his wife Hilda to stop wearing high heel shoes.
- A woman in the audience stated that when she was in her 20s she wore high heels, and later in life had to have three foot surgeries as a consequence of wearing high heels when she was in her twenties.
- Raziel talked about the action implications of the interrelated facts that the Japanese are world-leaders in robotics and the population of Japan is dropping dropping dramatically by the tens of millions because the Japanese people living in Japan are not reproducing.
- Japan is becoming a country of old people who need care. But, there are not enough young people living in Japan to care for the physical and emotion needs of their elderly and aging population.
- This has led to a ton of money being spent by Japanese firms and being spent by the Japanese government on human motion research and on human emotion research that to be used in designing robots to do the job of taking care of the physical and emotional needs of the elderly.
- Raziel spent considerable time talking about the design parameters for robots that will be designed to replace human and animal caregivers.
- Raziel predicted that humans and pets who presently care for the emotional and physical needs of the elderly will be replaced by robotics.
The sign below was projected on a screen in the room where the speakers spoke.
This sign summarizes the topics and academic credentials of the speakers.
Each of the speakers presented information with emotion.
ASIDE: Information without emotion isn’t retained.
Audience Profile
Due to the wonderful snacks available on the serving table in the adjoining room, a giant pot of delicious coffee and an array of cold drinks for attendees to choose and take to the adjoining room before the talk was given – some of us (myself included) ate and drank both during the presentation and before the presentation.
As a result we were on a sugar and caffeine high while we were listening to the speakers’ presentations.
Many of the people attending this event needed an energy boost at this time of night.
The lecture began at around 8:00 p.m. Most of the people in the audience were over 60 years old.
This was going to be a late night. I didn’t get back to my home after the presentation until almost 11:30 p.m.
Every women attending this educational program was elegantly and fashionably attired.
Women wore stunningly beautiful high fashion shoes and elegant jewelry.
They came with stylish handbags.
The ladies in the audience were obviously accustomed to being around money and spending it.
Below is a picture of the unique and highly fashionable shoes one woman at this event wore at this event.
None of the women in the audience at this event wore tennis shoes, sneakers or sandals.
All the women attending this event carried their “stuff” in elegant handbags.
The handbag on the floor at the feet of one of the youngest ladies in attendance at this event is a Prada handbag.
Prada products are high fashion products.
The jewelry on display was fine arts museum quality jewelry.
Look at the ring on the right hand of the woman in the photograph below.
I took two pictures of the fruit and candy that lady put on her plate, to snack on before and during the presentation.
The handbags the women had at this event were elegant works of art.
Below is a photograph of the handbag of the woman sitting in front of me at the table I sat at during the presentation.
Shoes are the beginning touch of complete style.
Look at two photographs below …. which I took of shoes being worn by two of the younger women who attended this event were wearing.
CONCLUSIONS:
- Like attracts like.
- Birds of the same feather do flock together.
- People with good taste and refinement attract other people with good taste and refinement.
- Brainy people attract other brainy people.
- High performance money people attract other high performance money people.
The world is a classroom in which we can all soak up lessons and stories to fuel our path forward.
Everyone attending that program is amazing. I’ve done my best to showcase that in this report.
Copyright © 2016 by Gary Smolker, All Rights Reserved
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CONTEXT
Below is an image of the front side of a T-shirt with the initials PUWRFC.
PUWRFC stands for Princeton University Women’s Rugby Football Club.
My good friend Richard Gibson wore that T-shirt at a meeting I had with Richard yesterday.
That T-shirt set the tone of our meeting.
The purpose of my meeting with Richard was to come up with a strategy to recommend to a friend of mine’s daughter Jessica who we thought was on the verge of being exploited by her employer.
Jessica , a highly qualified skilled and experienced woman, was experiencing an on-going frustrating situation at work.
We wanted to make sure Jessica understood our opinion that this is/was an appropriate time to be tough,
THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING A (CORRECT) MENTAL MODEL OF HOW THE WORLD WORKS
During our conversation with Jessica, Richard and I gave Jessica a mental image, a mental model, to have of herself of who she had to be while negotiating a compensation package with her employer.
Richard and I made it absolutely clear to Jessica that there are times when it is okay to be tough; there are times when it necessary for a woman to be “tough.”
The T-shirt Richard wore (front of T-shirt pictured below) was given to Richard by his adoring daughter Caroline.
Below is an image of the reverse side of the T-shirt, Caroline gave to Richard.
I took those photographs yesterday afternoon (May 7, 2016) at my friend Richard Gibson’s home.
The words on the reverse side of the T-shirt are
- FIGHT
- SCORE
- WIN
- EVISCERATE
The four words above (on the back side of the T-shirt) express (encapsulate) the attitude of the National Champion Princeton Women’s Rugby Team during the time Caroline was an undergraduate student at Princeton.
The team, through its T-shirt, signals to member of the team to the world at large that the team and its members (while on the Rugby Football field) have an aggressive take on prisoners attitude.
I sent the above image of that T-shirt to Jessica to reinforce the attitude and mental frame of mine Jessica, Richard and I had discussed at our meeting.
LIFE IS ABOUT HAVING GOOD JUDGMENT
During the four years Caroline was at Princeton University’s she was on Princeton University’s women’s rugby football team.
Each year of the four years Caroline played on the Princeton University’s women’s rugby team, Caroline was an All-American Women’s Rugby Football Player.
Princeton won the National Women’s Rugby Championship three of the four years Caroline was on the team.
When Caroline graduated from Princeton, Richard gave Caroline the choice of training on the United States Woman’s Rugby Team for the Olympic Games or going to medical school.
Caroline chose to go to medical school instead of to train for the U.S. Olympic Woman Rugby Football Team.
Life Is Not A Formula.
Caroline is currently practicing medicine as a neo-natal physician on the staff of the neo-natal intensive care department at world renown Seders Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles, California.
Caroline Gibson, M.D. deals with the life and threatened death of prematurely born and or defectively new born babies every day, saving their lives.
The fact that life is not a formula is what makes Caroline’s life, your life and my life interesting.
Life Is Full of Messages, Choices and Decisions
Life involves having a strategy and positioning.
Outcomes in life depend, in part, on having good judgment, and making good choices and decisions.
There are many alternatives in everyone’s life, many choices to be made.
Whether we are aware of it or not, we have a mental image of how the world works and of our impact on the world.
We are constantly sending impactful messages to everyone who sees us, hears us, and/or reads what we write.
Visual messages and choice of words identify who we are, what we believe, how we think the world works and what we are about.
See for example:
- Steven Pinker’s THE STUFF OF THOUGHT – “Language As A Window Into Human Nature”
- Steven Quartz and Anette Asp’s “COOL – How the Brain’s Hidden Quest for Cool Drives Our Economy and Shapes Our World” and
- Stephen Apkon’s “THE AGE OF IMAGE – Redefining Literacy In A World of Screens.”
Below is a photograph I took a couple of weeks ago of a man wearing a T-shirt. I believe the T-shirt that man is wearing sends a very clear message (makes a very clear statement) of what that man believes, how he thinks the world works, and of his emotional orientation.
In my opinion that T-shirt shows the man wearing that T-shirt identifies with the toughness and wildness of professional boxer Mike Tyson.
That man is clearly saying (to me) that he is a FAN and fully supports everything about and roots for the success of Brooklyn New York born professional boxer Iron Mike Tyson and identifies with who Mike Tyson is and Mike Tyson’s struggles and approach to life.
The “key” words to me in that T-shirt are “Brooklyn, NY” and “Iron”/”Iron Mike Tyson.”
The man in the picture is celebrates iron/toughness/coming from a rough neighborhood by using the words Iron Mike Tyson.
The message printed on that T-shirt is a provocation — equivalent to dogs peeing to mark their territory. The message in that T-shirt projects physical male prowess, especially in a “fight”, especially in the boxing ring.
The message being broadcast on that T-shirt is: I AM TOUGH. DON’T PICK A FIGHT WITH ME. I AM V E R Y TOUGH.
I took that photograph while I was eating breakfast on the patio at Aroma Cafe and Bakery on Ventura Blvd., in Tarzana, California, two weeks ago.
The Aroma Cafe and Bakery has a palpable energy.
The customers who go there and wait staff there are always high energy.
The Aroma Cafe and Bakery’s menu is an example of unfettered creativity, as is each dish served there.
I’ve been a regular at the Aroma Cafe and Bakery for more than five years.
Below is a picture of a woman wearing a T-shirt which sends an entirely different statement that the T-shirt worn by the man above wearing the Iron Mikey Tyson T-shirt.
The words printed on her T-shirt are The Angels Have Landed.
I took the photograph of her, wearing a The Angeles Have Landed T-shirt (see image below), at the Starbucks Coffee Shop (Starbucks Store # 6630) on the corner of Burbank Blvd. and Van Nuys Blvd., in Van Nuys, California, located at 14431 Burbank Blvd., Van Nuys, last week.
That Starbucks is located in a lower-middle class neighborhood one block away from that portion of Van Nuys Blvd which is the location of Van Nuys’ and Sherman Oaks’ “automobile row.”
New car dealerships, with car lots full of new and used cars for sale, line both sides of Van Nuys Blvd., one block away from this Starbucks.
Many of the customers in that Starbucks are struggling writers, film writers, book writers, joke writers and comedians.
There are many angels in the earth.
Below is a photograph of man whose T-shirt directly deals with his idea, which is a universally held idea, about the “California State of Mind.”
I took the photograph of that man (below, last week) outside of Lido’s Pizza in Van Nuys, California — located at 14232 Victory Blvd., Van Nuys, CA.
Lido’s Pizza has been in business for about 50 years.
Look at the photograph below of the same man with his girlfriend.
Look at the joy on their faces.
Don’t Be Afraid of Who You Are
You can’t be afraid of who your are.
Don’t run away from your own powers.
Embrace your strengths.
Our choices are affirmations of our values and goals.
Everyone has the power to say, “This I am today; that I will be tomorrow.”
When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. Its to enjoy each step along the way.
Do what you want to do; be yourself.
Play big. There is no passion to be found in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than you are capable of.
GETTING BACK TO MY FRIEND’S DAUGHTER JESSICA
Helping people see possibilities increases the choices they can make.
Jessica is in the process of negotiating her compensation package with her employer, a national real estate brokerage firm.
Jessica has extremely rare specialized training experience skills and ability.
Jessica is a specialist in a narrow segment of the commercial real estate industry.
Richard has more than 50 years of experience in the real estate industry, as a real estate broker, as a developer, as a property manager, as person who raises money for projects, as an investor and as a financier.
After my meeting with Jessica and Richard concluded, I sent a “heads-up, brief summary of our meeting and follow-up” email/letter to Jessica’s sister Sabrina.
Below is a redacted copy of a note I sent to Jessica’s sister Sabrina – via email.
I also sent a copy of that e-mail to the mother of an extremely talented young lawyer friend whom I am very fond of and to that young man.
FOLLOW-UP “HEADS-UP” LETTER
Saturday evening, May 7, 2016
Sabrina
I had a telephonic strategy meeting with your sister Jessica and my friend Richard Gibson this afternoon.
At the beginning of our conversation, I “asked” Jessica to write down the following four words:
- Fight
- Score
- Win
- Eviscerate
Throughout my discussion with Jessica, I repeatedly advised Jessica to be tough in her dealing with you know who.
The attached images are the front and back of a Princeton University Women’s Rugby Football Club T-shirt that was worn by Richard Gibson at our meeting.
Richard’s daughter Caroline played on the Princeton University’s Women’s Ruby Football team for four years; she was an All-American Women’s Rugby Football player those four years and the intercollegiate team Caroline was on won the National Championship three of the four years Caroline was on the team.
Caroline is a neo-natal intensive care physician at Cedars Sinai.
Caroline deals with life and death every day.
Knowing your sister Jessica and Caroline for many years, I know your sister Jessica can deal as coolly under pressure as Caroline,
I look forward to Jessica and you meeting Caroline.
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY
We cannot sleepwalk through life.
We need a strategy; passion and anger are not enough.
By the way, I am sending a back copy of this note to a young talented lawyer I am very fond of who has been sleepwalking. I am also sending a copy of this email to his mother.
Mother of young lawyer:
- Please wake your son up.
- Please give your son hell.
Warmest regards,
Gary
Jason Fane’s Comments Regarding that Email and My Reply
After reading the above note to Jessica, my super achieving brilliant friend Jason Fane wrote to me:
“You catch more with honey than with vinegar and make fewer enemies.
“Many battles are won by strategy, and positioning. The opponents may not ever know that there was a battle or that they lost.”
I replied:
“Tell that to the Shepard who threw the rock at Goliath.”
Jason replied:
“OK, where would I find him? Where does he live now?
TAKE AWAY:
- There is a time and place for everything.
- Once in a while, you need to throw the stone that kills the enemy.
Creativity Is About Connecting Things
At its core creativity can’t be reduced to a formula.
Creativity needs novelty and surprise to seem fresh and new.
However, creativity is just connecting things.
I wholeheartedly agree with what Apple co-founder Steve Jobs said about creativity in in 1966:
“When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn’t really do it, they just saw something. It seemed obvious to them after a while. That’s because they were able to connect experiences they’ve had and synthesize new things. And the reason they were able to do that was that they’ve had more experiences or they have thought more about their experiences than other people.”
I know creative people draw upon their own lives (personal experiences) as creative fodder.
My favorite Steve Jobs quote is:
“You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”
My favorite quote about the importance of observation in the creative process, is the following statement made by Louis Pasteur:
“In the filed of observation, chance favors the prepared mind.”
My 28 year old daughter Leah Graham Smolker’s latest blog post (on “Leah’s Travel Blog – Journeys Across the Universe) at https://easytospell03.wordpress.com/2016/05/art-travel-soul/ titled “Art, Travel & Soul” posted on May 8, 2016, (today) is a perfect example of all of the above.
In that post, Leah explains that great artists and writers were determined to travel at some point in their life.
Leah explains that, “Art does not exist without travel. Art needs a location. Art needs architecture. Without, there is no soul and there is no spine-tingling gratifying effect to the viewer. Travel is more than nomadic tendencies; travel is the creation of human capital and enterprise.”
Leah is talking about creative artistic masterpieces, not run of the mill ordinary art.
In that post,
- Leah explains how travel influenced the life and work of Edvard Munch, Caravaggio, Goethe, Van Gogh, Chagall, and Edward Hopper.
- Leah quite stridently describes how travel played a dominant role in creating the gratifying effect of viewing the great masterpieces of art she describes in that blog post.
- Leah explains the attitude of the famous creative artist whose paintings she discusses in her post titled “Art, Travel and Soul”: “A lot of great artist loathe cliches, banality and unoriginality.”
Leah gives many examples.
Below are two of my favorite pictures discussed in Leah’s recent blog post titled “Art, Travel & Soul” – which Leah posted earlier today.
I agree with Leah that the two paintings shown below have “soul” and are extremely original.
Those paintings have a spine-tingling gratifying effect when ever I view them.
By the way, Leah and I “rank” people by how much “soul” they have.
Leah and I talk about how much “soul” people have all the time.
I agree with what David Dye, Bill Walton, Michael Jordan and Vincent Van Gogh have said about the human spirit:
- “Work that is disconnected from meaning and purpose is a prison bar.” – David Dye, author and leadership development coach
- “You don’t win championships by just being normal, by just being average.” – Bill Walton, basketball player
- “Championships are won while the stands are empty.” – Michael Jordan, basketball player
- “Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.” – Vincent Va Gogh, artist
ABOUT LEAH
Leah attended school in Mainland China, Thailand and Israel as well as in the United States and has taught in South Korea.
Leah has loved art and reading books her entire life.
Leah has traveled to and “lived” for brief periods of time in thirty different countries.
The Importance of Being Creative, Talented and Fun
Unless your are an absolute genius famous for creating things – as well as famous and revered for living a life that pushes boundaries – such as choreographer Jerome Robbin, it is absolutely necessary that you be fun and fun to be with if you want to succeed in life or in business “long term.”
Robbins was a bully and a perfectionist.
Robbins was so despised by dancers that they sometimes refused to speak to him off the stage. But few refused his invitations to perform.
Robbins was widely acknowledged – revered actually – as one of the most creative artists of his time.
In 1949, he contacted his friends Leonard Bernstein and Arthur Laurents with the idea that they should collaborate to create a new musical.
Their goal, Robbins said, should be to establish the avant-garde on Broadway.
These three creative men collaborated on the project proposed by Robbins because they wanted to create something that felt modern yet timeless.
Over the next few years, these three men traded scripts, scores and choreography ideas.
Working on this project required every ounce of their tenacity, artistry, technical wizardry, and endurance.
In 1957 – eight years after they had first embarked on that project – they were finally done. All that was left was to find financial backers.
Nearly every producer they approached turned them down. They were told their “play/musical/dance drama” [Westside Story] was too different from what audiences expected.
Robbins finally found financiers willing to support a staging of Westside Story in Washington, D.C.
Their creation, West Side Story, was first performed in 1957.
When the curtain went down on opening night there was silence.
As everyone prepared to take their positions for the curtain call there was absolute silence, they took their places holding hands.
When the curtain went up, they looked at the audience and the audience looked at them.
And then the audience jumped to their feet, stamping and yelling.
West Side Story went on to become one of the most popular and influential musicals in history.
West Side Story is a genre defying masterpiece.
Robbins, Bernstein and Laurents trusted themselves enough to let their creativity out.
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