Nature vs. Nurture by Gary Smolker

I take my coffee seriously.

So do Sicilians.



At dinner last night (February 23, 2017), my youngest daughter Leah (age 29) and I decided that we would go to Sicily together instead of going to Italy, Croatia, Montenegro, or Russia.

We discussed possible things and places to see and experiences to have in Sicily.


Leah is presently attending law school full time.

Lean and I  “plan” to take our trip to Sicily either during Leah’s Spring Break or during Leah’s Summer Break.

Leah has traveled to 30 different countries.

Leah publishes a travel blog at

Leah loves traveling.

I love Leah.

I love taking trips with Leah.

The Big Question

After she got home from dinner, Leah sent me the following note, via email:

Do you still want to see nature over city? 

“Do you want me to make an itinerary that favors nature in Sicily over urban scapes.

“Sicily has a balance of both beautiful nature and Baroque cities.”

My Answer

That sushi place you love in Santa Monica started following me on Instagram @garyspassion.

“I think I prefer nature over man built but I am open minded … whatever is the best example (if there is such a thing) of what it is is what I want to see.

“I want to see the “best” of everything so I will be better able to compare things.

“Most people can tell the difference between something that is bad and something that is good, ut only a rare individual can tell the between the best and the very best.

I want to be among those rare few who can tell the difference between the best and very best.

“You are already among the very few who can do that.

“Amazingly, you and your sisters Judi and Terra can do that in more than one field of expertise.

“I am so happy you share your good taste and discernment.”

Personal Information

I love good food, long meals and lazily drinking good coffee.

Below are photographs of two pages in one of the travel books that Leah and I looked at during our dinner last night.


Thoughts for the Day

You will not be able to figure out what you really want unless you try everything. – GSS

“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or happier.  Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth.  Its the complete eradication of everything we imaged to be true.” – Adyashanti

There Is Always A Trade-Off


Copyright © Gary S. Smolker, All Rights Reserved

This is the sixth of a series of articles I intend to post on the Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog at on “LIVING THE ENGAGED LIFE.”

I have constantly made posts on Instant @garyspassion on “LIVING THE ENGAGED LIFE” and intend to continue to do so.

Follow me on Instagram @garyspassion

I intend to publish a series of articles on “HIGH ENERGY COMMUNICATIONS” on the Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog at  I began writing the first article in that series this morning (Friday, February 24, 2017).

About Gary S. Smolker

PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY: No enterprise can exist for itself alone. Every successful enterprise ministers to some great need, it performs some great service, not for itself, but for others. Otherwise, it ceases to be profitable and ceases to exist. Imagination, open mindedness and flexibility are the most important factors in unlocking potential. Those who embrace innovation, improvisation, continuous learning, time management, are action oriented, high energy, passionate, creative, purposeful and intense individuals are best equipped to succeed. We all have ideas and the ability to make progress by sharing information and our ideas and also by changing our ideas when appropriate. We should always be on the lookout for teaching and mentoring moments. We hold time like water in our hands; however tightly we clench our fingers, it drips away. But, if it falls on a seed, a seed may grow to become something that will have a positive social impact. PERSONAL INTERESTS: I have a passion to learn, to innovate, to lead, to mentor and to teach. I seek to write things worth reading and want to do things worth writing about. I enjoy (a) driving a fast car, (b) having intense conversations (c) teaching/mentoring, (d) reading and (e) being involved in productive activity. PERSONAL: I believe in cultivating and backing passionate people, innovation, and old fashioned good ideas. I love making human connections and spreading good ideas. I am strongly motivated to achieve in situations in which independence of thought and action are called for. PERSONAL GOALS: I want to live life vibrantly, to be as sharp as a tack until my last breath and to change the world by being me. My personal goal is to be fully engaged in life, to lead by example, to set high standards and to continue to amass firsthand experience and knowledge in all that interests me. PERSONALITY: I love fun and mischief. I relish absurdity. I have an irreverent, facetious and satiric disposition. I dread boredom. I have spent a lifetime reading. I have no bias against people who have lived successful and/or complicated lives. I write to release tension, to get things off my chest. SOCIAL MEDIA: I post articles on the "Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange" blog at, and "Dude's Guide to Women's Shoes" at I also post images and comments on Instagram @garyspassion. CONTACT INFORMATION: Gary Smolker, Smolker Law Firm, 16055 Ventura Blvd., Ste 525, Encino, California, 91436-2609, USA. Phone 1-818-788-7290, e-mail

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