You Can’t Cheat Reality – by Gary S. Smolker
People of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.
You can’t cheat reality.
Every attempts backfires in ways you don’t anticipate; the unanticipated consequence of backfire goes beyond far beyond your that if this doesn’t work that will happen.
Don’t try to cheat reality; it’s a failed proposition from the get go.
Reality tries its damness to teach you to do the right thing.
What will happen to you if you try to cheap reality will be worse than being “bitch slapped.”
The author does not warrant any positive result will arise from use of anything stated in this guidance.
Most especially there is no guarantee of a happy result.
Guidance Number One
Don’t marry anyone under 40 years old.
- If you don’t want to be autonomous.
- If you want to procreate.
- If you are so young that you have no concern about your future.
Guidance Number Two
Being married involves sacrifice.
Raising children and maintaining a marriage is complicated.
Don’t marry anyone who has children if you don’t want to be constantly sacrificing for the benefit of someone else’s child.
If you marry someone who already has a child you will be subject to many “outside forces” (as a result of the presence of that child in your life) that will block and overpower you.
Guidance Number Three
Don’t think getting involved doesn’t involve marriage.
Guidance Number Four
You need to confront aging and death.
Understand that as you age you become less attractive to the opposite sex; as you age you become more like furniture than a sex partner.
Recollect that as you walked down a street during different phases of your life the members of the opposite sex paid less and less attention to you.
Note that as you become older when you walk down a street members of the opposite sex pays less and less attention to you.
Guidance Number Five
Never believe that money isn’t important.
Money is like water, it flows.
Guidance Number Six
BEWARE: The tiniest leak can sink the largest ship.
Guidance Number Seven
Don’t believe you can control access to your money.
Guidance Number Eight
BEWARE: Selfish has to do with values.
- Most women with children will value their children more than they will value their husband.
- Many men will value their career more than they will value their wife.
- A secular culture tends to regard individuals as autonomous; it fails to provide a rationale for sacrifice for future generations or personal service for the disabled and the aged.
- We all become subject to events that make our intentions pointless.
- Our options are profoundly limited.
Guidance Number Nine
Middle-aged men have a perverse disinclination to accept that they are no longer sexually attractive.
Guidance Number Ten
The majority of men are in denial about their sexual attractiveness to women.
Guidance Number Eleven
Women often become resentful when they become less sexually attractive.
Guidance Number Twelve
Women rarely hook-up with men who are less wealthy then they.
Men often hook-up with women less wealthy than they.
Guidance Number Thirteen
If you have money it will flow to the other person’s indulgences.
Guidance Number Fourteen
You will not be in control.
Guidance Number Fifteen
To save yourself from a lot of grief, although it is impossible for most people to do so, proceed with caution and follow Guidance Number One and Guidance Number Two.
- If you don’t follow these guidance principles, the number of complications and complexities in your life will grow exponentially.
- Stubborn people refuse to accept the fact that they can’t control circumstances.
- The bounty of all the poems and songs about relationships we enjoy so much, especially country and western songs, were written about people who didn’t follow the guidelines set forth above.
- In order to have full employment of song writers, singers and musicians it is necessary for people to continue to fail to follow the guidance set forth above.
I believe in love, marriage, and having a family.
The things we love tell us what we are and who we are.
Man is not meant to be alone.
Men are meant to be with a woman.
Women are not meant to be alone.
Women are meant to be with a man.
METAPHOR: It is safe for a ship to be in a harbor. But, a ship is not built to stay in a harbor.
To not dare is to have a wonderful relationship with a member of the opposite sex is to have already lost.
Be with someone who you enjoy being with and who enjoys being with you.
The way you treat other people and the way you treat yourself is the measure of who you are.
Seek to get into and then get into a meaningful relationship with a member of the opposite sex.
Life has to be involving, it has to be fun, and it has to exercise your creative instincts.
In order to achieve anything you must be willing to be creative and you must be willing to fail.
Creativity takes courage.
Never be afraid to fail. That’s the first step to succeeding.
Life is all about who you become on the journey.
If you are willing to accept less than your best effort, you will never maximize your potential.
Being a father is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Being the father of my three daughters is a source of endless joy to me.
Below is a picture of my grown-up daughter Judi practicing ballet when she was a young girl.
Below is a picture of my daughter Terra dancing with me at her wedding reception.
Below is a picture of my daughter Terra during the religious ritual ceremony at her Bats Mitzvah.
Below is a picture of me cutting the loaf of bread we all shared at the reception.
Below is a picture of my sister and her two daughters dancing at the reception, a party which followed the religious ritual.
Below are pictures of some of our men friends dancing at Terra’s Bats Mitzvah party.
Below is a blown-up picture of Leah’s face and the full-length picture of my daughter Leah going somewhere, when Leah was five years old.
Since the picture below was taken, Leah has traveled to thirty countries.
The guideline information provided above is the result of a private survey of veterans of human relationship folly and the joys of being married and having children.
Copyright © 2016 Gary S. Smolker, All Rights Reserved
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