“Good Listening Habits” by Gary S. Smolker
Thought for the day: Good Listening Is Like Having Great Sex. Listen With Delight!
Getting into the other person’s mind and feelings is the key to good listening.
If you rush past what other people find hard to express you will lose opportunities to learn what drives them.
Most people don’t listen because they have other things they would rather do, or they are so focused on their own needs that they literally can’t listen. Or, they are so keen to speak they can’t hear.
Your listening needs to be slow and reflective rather than fast and rushed if you want to influence other people.
If you rush you may miss a point that would change everything.
Good listening requires staying present, requires staying connected to the other person’s point of view despite seemingly irreconcilable differences.
Listening is always a choice based on how important it is for you to make a connection.
Good listening will always make you smarter and will earn you strong and broad connections to any other person you wish to work with.
The only way to experience life is from a subjective point of view.
Slow down long enough to imagine the other person’s experiences.
People can tell when you don’t respect them.
Respect the people (or person) you want to influence.
There are no emotionless environments.
Good listening is like having great sex: Where there is desire, skills will follow.
Holding your thoughts and desires while you fully experience another’s point of view without judgment is the key to good listening, the key to winning the hearts and minds of other people and is also the key to having great sex.
Mindless speed and narrow self-indulgent focus will cause you to lose opportunities.
Prove that you aren’t deaf or blind or self-obsessed.
Always listen with delight.
Copyright © 2015 by Gary S. Smolker
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